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Thursday, 27 August 2015

Is that what I really want?

Photo credit: Sam Caplat and Flickr Creative Commons

I want to get married.

Or do I?

Sure, it'd be nice. I'd have tangible love. I'd be treated like a princess. I'd be honoured and served and romanced and loved like crazy. 

But hang on a second. That's not really what marriage is about, is it?

Why do we look at the romance side and neglect the pure hard work it takes? We read the sentence above and love the idea, all the while forgetting that we have to love unconditionally, treat someone specially, honour, serve, and romance our husband! We forget that we have to give too! Good gosh peoples, let's face it - this is gonna be hard work! And I'd venture to say quite a bit harder than if we were single! 

Do I really want that? Do I really want to throw myself into the crazy effort it will be to cultivate a relationship? I'm not saying it's not worth the trouble, but let's be realistic here! 

Is marriage what I really want? It's hard to face that question. I'm not sure I have an answer. I know marriage can be very much worth it. But it's not easy! So I guess we'll just have to wait and see. 

Cassie xoxox

(P.S. No, this is not one of the posts I announced recently. Those are still in the works. I should have one out soon hopefully!)


  1. I've been thinking about this recently Cassie, and you're definitely right. So, so, so many girls look at marriage as a way to have that longing for love fulfilled, without realizing that that's ultimately *not* what marriage is about. We want to be treated like we're special, like someone loves us in that romantic way; but when we look at marriage through those love-sick lenses, we forget the way that God intended for it to be. Thanks for this post, Cassie!

    1. Yes, exactly! Thanks Lauren. :)

  2. So true, Cassie! And a lot of the romance movies and books these days don't really help with getting a right prospective either. ;)
    I often have a longing to be married, but often my idea of marriage is foiled. And then there are the moments when I am reminded of how hard marriage can be and then I get freaked out and decided I could never do marriage. ;)

    1. I know right! Yeh, sometimes I look at the lady Mum disciples, who's a young mother, and had a very admirable (and cute!) dating relationship with her husband, and I see her talking about training children and pouring effort into her relationship and I'm like 'man, I'm really not sure I could do that....' :)

    2. Yeah! Sometimes I think about my own mom and all that she has done and still does and I am like, "I could never be that kind of mom!"
      But I also have to remember that God always gives us the grace to do what he calls us to do, and in the time that we need. ;)


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